Your Messenger message:

"Sir Tony, sorry po sa abala. Madalas po may cramps attack ako sa breast, ilalim ng braso, kili kili and likod. Traumatic po ang pain, sobrang sakit. Okey po lahat ng blood test. Nagtherapy na rin po ako. Hindi makita saan galing. Inisip ko na po magpa confine para sa thorough check up. Hindi ko na po alam ang gagawin ko. Sobrang sakit po pag sumusumpong. Pain reliever lang po binibigay sa akin. Thank you po."

My reply:

Hello __________!

A. Physically, you are ailing from reversed frozen shoulder.

Do the following exercises twice a day:

1) Door Jamb: Stand under the jamb of an open door. Plant your fingers on both sides of the jamb. Tilt your body forward, your fingers on the jamb preventing you from falling.

2) Climbing Ant: Stand with your side as close to a wall as possible. With your arm and hand down your side, touch the wall with your forefinger and middle finger. Make your fingers "walk" upward for as high as you can without moving your body away from the wall.

3) Bath Towel. Hold a bath towel behind your body, your hands on both ends on the towel. Make sawing movements with your hands, first diagonally to the right and then diagonally to the left.

In addition:

--Make sure you are well-hydrated, especially at night, even if you have to go to the bathroom several times.

--Try to sleep in a fetal position.

--Whenever you have an attack, stand up immediately, bend backward, raise and rotate your arms, do side stretches, and/or stoop and reach down to your toes. You will be able to identify which movement is most effective in alleviating the pain.

--Hold on pain killers as much as possible. Taking them frequently will cause a transient ischemic attack.

B. Psychologically:

1) You are biting off more than you can chew. Sometimes all you need to do is live the life of a normal wife, without being concerned about the legacy you can leave behind.

2) Do not get involved with the problems of relatives. They are there for them, not you, to solve.

3) Compartmentalize. Leave some tasks to your husband and don't even worry about them.

Unfortunately you won't know what real heaven is until you retire and let go. I've been there and done that, and let me tell you that it is the most blissful and satisfying experience ever. 

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