Your Messenger message:

"Goodevening po sir. Kailangan ko lang po ng tulong nyo. Sana po matulungan nyo po ako sir as im really heartbroken due to the sudden passing of my mom due to aneurysm.

"I really hope that you could notice me sir.. gusto ko lng po malaman how is my mom? Kng nasa mgnda po ba cyang klagayan just like nun npanaginipan ko po saknya that shes infront of what seems to be like a palace or kaharian

"...My mom's name is ________________________, 69/F,

"Last July 18 po sir, around 11am time, we were in the car bigla lang po cyang ngcomplain na parang sumasakit daw po batok nya. She asked us kng pwede daw po cyang uminom ng paracetamol. Husband told her na kng batok yan, BP yan at need nya magrest. When we got home, nkalakad pa c mama. As soon as she reached the bed, bigla nlng cyamg humiga. she was having excruciating Nape pain. Noon ko lang po cya nakita na ngreklamo ng ganun at umiiyak habang hawak po batok nya.. pagkabp ko 160/90 po. Ngcatapres po kmi sknya, bumaba nman po after few min, after 30minutes i was cinvincing her na sumama padin samin but she told me na 'dito nlng ako, maiwan nlng ako dito' kung kaya mo ba, ma? 'Oo kaya ko' then i already bid her goodbye, and told her i love you Ma.. then huling silip nmin ng husband ko sknya, she was getting pale.. i was reluctant to leave my mom in that state, i was questioning myself kng tama ba gagawin ko, na aalis ako at iiwan ko mama ko but napressure npo ako coz ngmamadali npo un husband ko at sister in law ko na umalis kaya i was left with no choice but to leave at that moment. Pero binilin ko po mom ko sa helper na tingnan tingnan cya coz masama po pakiramdam nya. after 1.5 hours po, tumawag npo yun helper and she was frantically screaming for help na coz my mom was on the floor, Unconscious n

a but still with pulse. Nagsuka yun mom ko pala, mukang she walked pa para kunin un arinola, para doon magsuka. Inisip nya pa na di cya magkalat. "Hangang na-ICU npo c mama. Findings sa ctscan is aneurysmal bleed po. 4days pa po cya sa icu na coma state.. "(Pasencya npo sir ha at napahaba)

"This picture po was taken nun last june lang po."

My reply:

Hello ________!

Your mother is in a good place where she continues to watch over your family and you. Place her framed photo on your family altar. You may offer flowers, lit candles in bottles, and fresh drinking water on special occasions.

The grief you are experiencing is perfectly natural. Losing a mother--more than a father, if I may say so--is especially devastating. Go through your period of mourning, then pick up and allow everyday life to go on. You can always talk to your mother, aloud and when you are alone, as though she were still alive.

I need you to be aware and understand that your emotions are being complicated by other factors:  

--a feeling of guilt, because you could have done more for your mother before she passed away
--denial of her death at a relatively young age

--dreams of the future unfulfilled

--things that you wish you could have shared with her and told her
--having to take on certain responsibilities, now that she is gone
--fear of your own mortality

--changes in family dynamics

Do whatever you have to do, even if you have to do them on autopilot.

Rest and be assured that your mother is a shining spirit and is free from suffering.